Teaching children personal strength and risk taking is all part of being a parent, teacher or mentor. Yet as I look at our society we are stopping children from learning these qualities with to many controls on them. ➡️Handstands are being banned from schools as we speak… Why? Because parents need to blame others for children hurting themselves.
➡️Our school gets sued often…
This whole practice infuriates me > we are building a world of bubble wrapped children into bubble wrapped adults who require constant reassurance and ego patting.
✔️Fact: kids get hurt, adults get hurt but if we don’t take judgement risk, learn to stand on our own two feet and make mistakes how on earth how will we be a strong adult for the future.
How do we solve this problem:
1. allow children to make mistakes > for example:
+if they forget their lunch box at school, do not bring it to them, it is their responsibility to put it in their own bag.
+ if they forget their homework or any sport equipment, do not save them from this mistake allow them to suffer the consequences and learn from the mistake.
2. children get hurt more often because of their own fault > in all my 12 years of teaching I have twice seen a child hurt from another child in a pure malicious attack.
+believe half of what your children tell you happens at school > they are normally trying to spin the outcome to NOT get into trouble.
+teachers never lie to protect children > We will tell the facts only of what occurred > we are trying very hard to create any environment of safety for all students in our care.
Therefore if a teacher tells you your child has done something wrong > it is your child’s fault and you need to help teachers to manage your child in changing their behaviours.
FACT: Sometimes it is behaviour mirroring from the child from the adults they respect (parents, brothers, sisters) therefore sometimes our behaviours as adult must change to alter the child’s behaviour.
TIP: If your child is getting in trouble at school a lot > it is generally your fault as a parent because they have seen you or somebody in your household act this way towards others.
I realise it is hard fact to understand but if we as a society stop blaming others for our own mistakes maybe we can create a world of love and NOT blame.
I personally love teaching and I love helping young people to become the best they can be. I have a unique opportunity to sometimes be the most stable person in these children lives and I enjoy every part of it.
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