Ever felt jealous of another woman’s shoes? or that she is taking away your friend or that she has more success than you or… The list goes on right?
We as women need to combat this competitive, jealousy feeling and fast…
b.truth
Over the years I have had many friends from different walks of life. All of which I have loved equality for every beautiful moment in time we have spent together. Some I remain friends with and some I am not friends with anymore. I am uncertain why… unfortunately it is for generally one particular reason: jealousy or competitiveness.
As we age we seek real friendship and this is not about the amount of friends, it’s about the true longevity and genuine acceptance of each other that creates great friendships. Friendship is about growing together closer, being honest but fair, helping each other in need and never being jealous of one another.
It is not about being in each other’s pockets, constantly needing attention as grown friendship should be easy. It just flows and doesn’t require daily or weekly or sometimes even only monthly contact. It’s that feeling of just knowing ‘you got each others back~ no matter what’ and always lifting each other up.
As we get older we view friendship in a different way. We have a handful of wonderful friends and others as lovely acquaintances. I have grown to love the fact that I only have a few friends as it’s all I can handle with everything that comes with family life. The more friends in a group generally the more drama is created. Life is difficult enough to navigate not to mention time consuming and these type of jealous friends are not needed in your life.
Types of people that cause problems in your life:
1. People who go on and on about themselves without ever a thought of giving back to others.
2. Serial Spongers/ the Non-Payers > borrow everything, not return and do not pay for things.
3. Emotional Leeches > drama in every corner of their life >sentence normally begin with : you will never guess what happen to me today….
4. The Dominatrices >who take over every situation, bullying your into doing things you do not want to do.
b. truth.
I try very hard NOT to speak ill of anyone, as I believe each and every person is trying their best, to achieve their own dreams and my comment or view has no baring on their hard work.
Unfortunately some women can not live to see others achieve. They believe it is only for them, as others should not achieve or aspire to be better than they were or are currently.
This is passionately distasteful because if we wish to grow humality we should only see to lift others higher. We need to become positive of their choices and help them to be their best and celebrate others growth, wealth or success.
b. truth.
I am not competing with you nor are you competing with me, (I hope) because – I want you to become better than you were yesterday and if that is better than me … good!
Go for it!
You deserve it!
Go get it!
I used to race competitively in various sports, triathlon, cycling, swimming, surf lifesaving, mountain biking all with that killer competitive instinct.
But that killer instinct can turn off and it should turn off when you are not racing. Competitive thoughts should be kept on the track not in real life vs the woman next to you.
Lets take a look at the rue of internal evil: jealousy which is described as an exterior showing of personal insecurities, self-loate or inner negativity.
Don’t let jealousy into your heart, as it eats away at you creating negativity around you personally. It can be seen in your face and in your communication. Fight these feelings away by looking for the good in others. Smiling for them and embracing them with the success and celebration they deserve.
How to overcome these feelings:
✔️when you feel that urge or twang of jealousy > SAY: we are not racing, we are not competing. There is enough light for all of us to bask in.
✔️avoid negative remarks about others: try and change the subject if you are drawn into a conversation.
✔️aspire to inspire especially in front of children.
✔️apologies to people if you have ignored them for these reasons above.
✔️realise it’s not all about YOU and possibility people could not care what you are doing because they are driving their own busy life.
✔️seek real friendship from women who are similar.
✔️look for the good in others.
To my beautiful friends:
I love you all immensely for all the experiences we have had together over many many years from childhood through adulthood and beyond.
Thank you to these special women I call my friends, I thank you for all your support, genuine kindness, non-competitive attitudes and loads of loud laughs whether they be daily, weekly or monthly meet up, phone calls or FaceTimes you are all so very special to me:
Sending you loads of love!!
Emma, Whitney, Lara, Leisa, Brigette, Ilona
Health and Happiness always,
b.
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